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So, I'm at the end, and i still don't understand it. Are you doing talk therapy WHILE they're moving their eyes? Like, asking them questions or having them tell their trauma story over again or having them repeat a loud, a certain thought, idea, mantra, memory??? Are asking them to just THINK about the trauma??? I'm still quite confused what's happening during the eye movement.

Once someone deceived you, you can no longer trust that person. Ever! It's not gaslighting, it's not reflection aggression. it's just reality. The deceiver needs to f off. That is the only remedy.

Can I ask I've never been completely honest with things that happen to me when I was a child. I was told why ruin so many people that had nothing to do with it. I haven't had sex since August 2009.. just in my head and using meth and living in horrible fantasy

How does one discern if one is being gaslit by a therapist or other health professional when one is already unsure of the correctness of their intuition about that person. If you address it head on the professional in question feels threatened and turns it back on you.

Thank you for compassion to both partners. As the unfaithful, it's so comforting. You directed me on another comment I made and this has been helpful. I'll have to listen a couple times to really understand.

We all should feel betrayed for working a 4 hour week in 2020 with electricity water internet cable and 20$ of food, rather then getting the freedom to work 40 hours (and not a hour less). Now we are back to 100% true freedom and not a hour less on a wonderful planet that cannot be escaped. We should all smile and let our teeth sparkle. I like to reflect on resistance being protons, and rest being neutrons, during such blessed eternal (without end) times.

Can I be gaslighting myself?

Check out this new series on the 12 Types of Gaslighting - ruclips.net/video/6XANUX7K2aU/видео.htmlsi=lBsBYbftZjXs1dP3

Test for gaslighting: show them the evidence and instead of owning up they just double down on the lie.

Currently treating him like a well loved toddler. Barge into the office while I’m on an important business call (jealousy on his part has him constantly bombing my business deals) asking very loudly about where to put the baby wipes. (Seriously?) and I just answer him as if he were a well loved toddler. Oh honey! I’m so glad you found your wipes! You can keep like keep them in the bathroom? (He loves to embarrass me because I occasionally use flushable wipes *roll eyes*) I have tried therapy, individual and couples, talking to him rationally, writing letters, sharing videos. You name it. At this point it’s either lose my mind or disassociate (bye relationship) and fight back with the beloved addled spouse tactic. I’m still looking for Healthier ways of living in this relationship and ultimately my life ❤ good luck everyone

What if the victim has to work by himself or herself alone?

The current state of affairs has been changed, requiring the individual who betrayed someone to put in significant effort if they desire to repair the relationship. The individual who committed the betrayal should not anticipate that the partner or loved one will swiftly bounce back solely through offering an apology or going for couple therapy. This is due to the fact that the event has already transpired, leaving lasting marks on the neurons in our brain and our amygdala is still in hyper vigilance and not feeling safe with the situation and environment.

No mattet what it hurts but there too many situational differences to catagorize the healing process in each situation. Mine is different than anyone elses ...yes im dealing with the infidelity sure but now also the baby that untortunetly was born because of this selfish insecure choice. Ten years flushed down the toilet. Some things im not sure can be recovered or rehabilitated

I have to give this a try!! I put my friend’s voice messages on 1.5 speed and ever since it has changed my life haha

Are you able to dive deeper into these? Like...is there a difference between one person making a big deal over something small, and someone thinking that the other person makes a big deal over something small...is that person necessarily gaslighting, or could the other person just blow up over small things? Or...could they each just have a different tolerance for what should constitute what is worth getting excited over...so it isn't gaslighting, but just different thresholds?

One of the most informative videos on sex addiction! 👌👌👌

You’re acting like sex addicts have empathy about what their betrayed spouse is going through, by not wanting to disclose everything. No, my husband has to force/fake empathy. He doesn’t want to disclose everything, because he doesn’t want to be seen any different than the image he has constructed.

Pathos, our greek word😊❤ that means passion.

Webster's word of the year for 2022, wow. I'm glad more people are aware of gaslighting and the harm it causes.

I have looked for stuff? about “shoulding” for awhile. This is cliche but my mother in law lives to “should” people. For years there would be a friends/family group conversation and then she would ask a question about the subject of the conversation, then when someone would answer she would cut them off and start in with the “should”. Zero experience about the subject but she’s off to the races. Now I just leave the room. I don’t care if it’s the middle of Christmas dinner. Often when my wife would come back into our house from work or shopping or whatever the first thing she would say would be, “who left this here?” or “why isn’t this where it’s supposed to be?” All of her family, when it’s goodbye time, don’t say goodbye, they tell people how they should travel or how to behave while they’re away or what they “shouldn’t” forget. For years I didn’t understand any of it. The concept of Rule Breakdown is new. Very helpful. Thank you

You've been talking about this for many years. I just discovered your channel. THANK YOU.

A porn addicted man if cries for a woman and play it Romeo and Juliet, can love a woman? My ex fiancé was watching every two- three hours and i left him. I found him at bathroom to watch a group sex and i kicked him from his house that day, when i went to stay. I checked his mobile and i find out howoften he was watching. I was afraid that he is going to do with a friend what he was watching, and he is more sick and he is a singer that he will do everything... He was smoking hasis too in the bathroom. I can' t understand if those two can go together, crazy love and cries and porn addiction....He tried to kill him self when i left him. From the beginning was saying that if he will lose me, he will die. He was taking secretly cocaine and smoked hasis. Still now that came for a date , after six months was saying i love you, you are a part of mine....But ...Gave a like to an escort that was out and have her at Facebook...When i made an (episode) for her in the past, bec. She called him , and he said what she want now ? At the moment i didn't now her job. But i was Angry , and then posted at her after his deadline to me to get back. He said she was a friend, well we are not five years old. I told him, were you to bed with me and still give like at her? You didn't have a good time? He said i give likes and doesn't mean something, i do it to many, but, no ....After two days i told him that i don' t want even for sex once a year, and cried again. The thought that i will not see his like bec he blocked me. After 16 he called me and said : Will you destroy my life? I wanted to hear you.e He wanted to have sex all the time and i think he was a sex addicted too. He didn't want to go the therapist, so i left him.😢

Good man thank you totally true coz I'm ill on meds and thing people around me do it's in my heart I'm ill on meds don't woch with me 7 years of it nasty

Why are you snooping on his phone? That's a betrayal. In good relationships, you don't betray the other person by breaking agreements or by invading their privacy. If someone betrays you, they're not someone you want to be with. If you don't want someone to be defensive, you mind your own business - even if it leaves you vulnerable.

My wife had an affair with a coworker 15 years ago and it still hurts every day. Never had anyone to talk to so everything has been internalized. I know it’s not healthy. We are still married but a part of me is so angry. I’ve been a good husband and father and never deserved this. It’s changed my life and it’s made me bitter. I wish I could flush those feelings and be truly happy again.

Thank you for this video. ❤

Hi Joshua, Do you accept patients outside of OK? I am in NV. I tried going to your website but it did not work. Thank you.

If the person can't fix what he or she broke then it's unfixable 😢

there’s people dying of cancer, kids born with defects and you’re saying forgiveness is the most complicated human phenomenon that’s existed. gtfo, you must have a very nice life

Forgiveness is not natural.

“The rules are leaning on each other…..” I love that..

Very good conversation, I send my therapist memes

I've found that it's better to be betrayed than to become a betrayer.

Anyone can gaslight you. But narcissists are the masters of gaslighting

I'm surprised it was genre as a comedy, it was almost like a psychological horror.

It was so sad and heart-wrenching. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse I felt so strongly for Marty's character because he really was just trying to be a good friend and think the best of Ike, weather he really was just trying to be a good friend and think the best of Ike, he was naive and perhaps a little inept, Ike took advantage of his emotional vulnerability, his passive and gentle nature and the sad part is, Marty really wanted to believe that Ike really cared about him... Sometimes it does take an intervention from people who actually care and to build a support team to get away from such abuse, I'm just so glad that he finally surrounded himself with loving people and stood up for himself. The sick thing is, like medicine, psychology can be used either to help or hurt the patient depending on how it's used, if someone takes too much insulin, it will kill them but if a diabetic takes the right amount it will save their life. I think this story speaks to how it's important to be aware abusive devices in dark psychology and it's important to be emotionally self-sufficient. Marty got taken advantage of because of his low self-esteem and his loneliness. His desperation to be liked caused him to allow Ike to take advantage of him. The sad thing is this happens every day in real life, maybe not between psychiatrists and patient but between husband and wife parent and child, I think the show really shines a light on the dangers of mental and emotional abuse and how far it can be taken.

Loved hearing these perspectives about what good work can be done by therapists in training/candidates. They truly work SO HARD to provide good services.

Unless you have been through this you will never know or understand the depth of hurt and trauma you go through that lasts a lifetime especially when he still lies

Very insightful and helpful. Thank you!

Thanks - profound video!

Also DV

I’m trying to assess my father’s behavior… thank you. Myself and sister are scoping this forward

I've definitely stopped being polite.

Its so hard. I get so emotional. O to 100 in 3 seconda. 😡😭😭

Unfortunately the healthier is to leave this relationship. Sad true. There is no other option. Their behavior will always repeat fiercely to hurt you without any concern with your well-being.... just expect confusion, blame shifting, false accusations, non sense excuses, gaslighting, provocations, insinuations, etc. 😢 Save yourself from the harm. They're not light, they're darkness.